Lately, I’ve been feeling it deeply—this growing disconnect among people, and within myself. It’s like something fundamental is breaking down in how we live and relate to one another. The grind, the isolation, the sense of being adrift in a world where the connections that once sustained us feel increasingly rare—it’s overwhelming. And I’m not alone in feeling this.
There was a time when friends would gather for those incredible late-night discussions about life, the universe, and everything in between. We’d share thoughts on books, movies, and ideas that made us feel alive. Now, it seems like even the opportunity for connection is slipping away. We’ve become so jaded or overwhelmed that we won’t even allow ourselves to reach out. I’ve been there, too, isolating myself for years because of anxiety, only to find a giant hole in my life once I started handling it.
Is this really better? As a society, we’ve prioritized productivity and individualism over the very things that make us human. We’re wired for connection, for storytelling, for shared experiences. Yet we find ourselves more fragmented than ever. It feels like we’ve all silently agreed this is the way it has to be, but… this sucks. It doesn’t have to be this way.
We can change it. I’m convinced of that. But it starts with small steps—within ourselves, our communities, and the spaces we create.
The Solution: Rebuilding Connection and Community
If you’re feeling this disconnect too, know that you’re not alone. And there are ways to rebuild, to strengthen, and to fill that hole with something meaningful. Here’s what I’ve been thinking about:
1. TV and Movie Club: A Space for Real Conversations
I’ve decided to start an in-person TV and movie club in my city. The idea is simple: gather a group of people who love sci-fi, film noir, and campy old horror movies, and watch them together. Afterward, we’ll talk about what we watched—not just about the films themselves but about the ideas they spark. Think of it as recreating those deep, late-night conversations in a welcoming, relaxed environment.
For those who can’t meet in person, I’m planning virtual watch parties. These could be hosted through platforms that let us sync up and chat in real time, making it possible to connect with friends or strangers from anywhere in the world. It’s not about replacing the in-person experience but creating more ways to connect meaningfully.
2. Small Businesses for Community, Not Personal Gain
What if we started small businesses—not for financial gain but to strengthen community bonds? Imagine a local coffee shop or workshop space that’s focused on people rather than profit. A place where anyone can come to share ideas, collaborate, or simply hang out. These businesses can become hubs for connection, offering events like open mic nights, book swaps, or skill-sharing workshops.
Even if you don’t have the resources to open a physical space, you can start small. Organize a community potluck, a local repair cafe, or even a group that meets regularly to discuss creative projects. The goal isn’t to make money but to make a difference—to give people a place to connect and thrive.
3. Building Connection in Everyday Life
Sometimes, it’s as simple as reaching out. Start a conversation with a neighbor, invite a friend over for coffee, or send a message to someone you’ve lost touch with. The little things add up. And when we make an effort to create connection in our lives, we inspire others to do the same.
We don’t need grand gestures to make a difference. What matters is that we try. Whether it’s through a movie club, a local initiative, or just being more open to others, every small act of connection helps us rebuild what’s been lost.
Let’s Make It Happen
I’m not saying it will be easy. Rebuilding community and connection takes effort, vulnerability, and patience. But it’s worth it. If you’re feeling the same way I am—if you’re tired of the isolation and yearning for something more—then let’s start. Together, we can create the spaces we need to thrive, one step at a time.
So what do you say? Let’s talk. Let’s build. Let’s connect.